A Culture of Lies, Deceit, and Irresponsibility
As I have mentioned in previous articles, while raising children, we teach them positive values not only through words, but also by our actions. By actions, I mean modeling various ways one can demonstrate values. One example is when we are confronted by a decision we have made: Do we take responsibility for our decision and consequential action or do we shirk it off on someone else?
As I mentioned about teaching positive values, we as adults also hold the power to teach negative values. If, by our actions, we teach our children to lie, be deceitful, and not to take responsibility for our decisions, we are increasing the likelihood that they will exhibit the same negative values in one degree to another as they go through their own lives.
Some parents would argue that the children do not know that they have emulated these negative values. On the other hand, children are like a tape recorder. They absorb a lot of information and observe much more than we might think. They may, as they grow older, pick up on these nuances and flaws in character, and begin to assimilate them into their own value systems. They ponder points such as “If it is okay for Mom or Dad to do it, then it must be okay for me.”
As taught either directly or indirectly by the parents or parent, these negative values create a family culture of lies, deceit, and irresponsibility. . If this negative culture is not changed in the children, then their lives will be laced with the same lies, deceit, and lack of responsibility that the adults have modeled in their lives.
If you see yourself in this situation and want to change, now is the time. However, if this applies to you and it does not resonate with you, then you quite possibly may reap what you have (intentionally or unintentionally) sown, and will be held accountable for your actions.